this post is from my iPhone so I may not be as pretty a typist as I should be ….
Topic is… Men in the dressing room at a burlesque show. Now, men are frequently in the dressing room at a burlesque show. Male performers, band members, M.C., etc are all frequent in the dressing room. That is fine. They are allowed. That said, random men are not typically welcome. I don’t care if it is a big-ass dressing room and they are not in my way, I don’t really want men I don’t know watching me rip my pasties off of my tender areolas or seeing other tender bits that are covered on stage. Please keep in mind that I am not shy about being unclothed and I do take a portion of my clothing off on stage, but that does not mean that the dressing room is an appropriate hang out location for your man.
If your man does need or want to come in the dressing room please ask and announce to the ladies that are there before bringing him in. If the answer is okay, fine, but if it is no, don’t push it. Some ladies are more reticent than others. Once there, if some one asks him to leave, please comply. Second please do not leave your man unattended in the dressing room. If you are not there your man should not be there. Being announced once does not give him interminable dressing room access for the night. These same rules of etiquette apply to any man visit as well as any man-props used during the performance. A man prop is not a co-performer but is your prop and, for dressing room purposes, should be given ancillary consideration. A man-prop should not be given all night in and out privileges on the dressing room. Certainly not unaccompanied. And if someone asks who and what this person is doing I don’t want to see a peeling off of the shirt and semi-lecherous comments about performing and do we want to see. Umm, not really. Thanks but no thanks. Also, please advise his potentially over-active ego that a 10 second cameo on stage does NOT make him a co-performer with you. Finally if you are a man who does wind up in the dressing room, I know it is difficult, but please try not to ogle and stare at our bits. Save that (and the appreciative screaming) for when we get on stage.